Loving is just letting the other grow in you. Whenever you meet a person for the first time u come to know a little about him and there is nothing in you that asks you to remember his name or his face; This simply is knowing. Suppose you feel quite good in his company and your meeting become frequent; This is the time when you start exploring the other one. You share memories, tastes, likes and spend time together; This discourses take you a step closer to that person. And this is when the person is able to create a space for himself in you. This small space in you will then start piling up all the moments or picuters thoughts or anything that even remotely relates to that person in it. Whenever you meet him, he is in your dream or you are thinking about him, this small magic box just opens up and fills u with his feel and fragrance. The more you share, communicate, get closer, this part in you grows deeper and bigger. With the growing of this coffer you grow more close to that person and before you realize both the things happen mutually together. The more closer you get to the person the more things compile in the box and the more it compiles, it indulges you more into the relationship. Sooner or later you just start relying on it whenver you are alone, unconsciously this box opens up and keeps you floating into the fond memeories and suddenly you start feeling happy delighted you feel substantial as in something is alive in you. And this unconscious opening of this virtual box actually makes u feel the absence of that percon in reality. That is missing the other one. When you start to realize the very presence of this box in you they say you almost have fallen in love with the other one. Remember the box is nothing but the other person itself with all those snaps and glimpses in that box you have let the other person grow in you. This happens with all of us. There are many boxes like this who have settled themselves in our hearts. We call them best friends. Eventually when anything exciting or mournful thing happens we cannot reserve it to our hearts. This boxes in our hearts compell us to share all the things with them too. This is the the most beautiful thing that defines friendship: Sharing. But there is something beyond this too. Out of all the boxes which have a little control over your heart there are some which are enchanting and appeal to you much, so much that they drift your attention from other boxes and outside world too. They eventually ezstablish themselves fully in your heart so much that your own heart resides in that box itself. This is what they call "I lost my heart to him". When this exact thing happens to the other one too, when even you let yourself proliferate in other one's heart fully without any restraints or bars. There is a time when you ultimately stop needing your ownself and start believing that box in you as your heart, when it starts pumping the blood in your body and gifts you emotions, it is the stage when they say: "In love as if two bodies one soul". Now is the time when ypu become the very image of each other. This is when telepathy becomes very strong. Because even if you are miles apart you are into each others' boxes. That is why all love in this world is letting the other grow in you. You certainly have no control over it. There is nothing more powerful than this love which has mutataed over a period of time. I have experienced this with all of my near ones and may be that is why I dont believe in Love at first sight. Sicne the box can never grow as much as it shud at the first sight. The people who believe in love at first sight probably dont even remotely know what love is!! How heavenly growing in each other is!!
This thought even makes me conclude that breakups do have strong reasons. People just don't break up because they are bored. But its only after that stage of sharing you realize if the box of that person is strong enough to over rule all other boxes. If its not then probably he is not the one for you. And it is the wisest decision to cease this growing intimacy right then. With such breakups you feel void in your heart and this is because the box just looses its grip on you and heart becomes vulnerable to any kind of other box that can feel the void instantaneously and make you feel secured. This is why people fall in love immediately with the person who was near them at the time of their break up. Its like there was already a box in your heart wanting to grow but because of the sudden void it got to grow faster and bigger. But remember the box of the person you broke up with, wont leave instantly actually it never does. What gets in once never goes out. Its only when some other box with brighter illumination fades it and that is what you call forgetting or moving on. After a precious close relationship you just move on but you never are done with it. This thought even makes me realize that its not playing to fall in love more than once. Yours is a free heart and you don't control the growing of the other in you. If you do you just are trying to control what is uncontrollable and that is why it pains! The key to happiness is to let as many boxes grow in you as possible and let your heart decide what box grew the most and could replace your own self with it.
Don't Love Hastily. Let it grow. Let it grow thoughtlessly.
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